Updated: May 7, 2019
Recently some like-minded persons asked me, whether they should let their parents know about their fetish (hobbies)! This question had been asked a lot.
Well I guess it sure is a problem most of you will face. I’m going to share my story.
Back when I was in junior high school I started to buy tights…masks...etc.
I was caught a few times, but never red-handed.
While in college I became financially independent, so I bought more of this stuff
(Of course I didn’t want anyone to have acknowledge at that time and didn’t even thought about it! Just want to collect what I enjoy)
But when the collection grew bigger…eventually you can’t hide it all…
I usually use performance or costumes from part-time jobas an excuse...my parents believed me.
(This is very crucial, parents aren’t stupid, and they pretend to believe you instead of poking through,partly because they’re waiting for to tell them, in the other hand represents they are being able to communicate, in half-awareness.)
After that I was working outside of Taiwan for about 4 years.
Entering the workforce made me to become able to feel the happiness in life, no need to live under somebody else’s nose.
What you really want is the truth.
Then returning back to Taiwan with a proper job status.
When your parents are ease about your future, this may be the right time to come to light.
But why? Telling them now, your parents won’t bond this with your future or influence about work.
They will simply think about what fetish is.
The reason I want my parents to acknowledge all of this is very simple: they are the person I love the most, that’s why I want them to know what I love.
Whether they accept it or not isn’t the point, this is more like an inform just to let them know. Because I love them.
I prepared a lot of work about how to inform.
(If I want my parents to understand me then I need to understand them first)
I started to play ping pong with my mom in the morning…knowing what her job is…meet her friends…Have more conversation with my dad, acknowledge what he likes…etc.
For about half a year our relations turned better and better.